10 Signs Of A Bad Relationship

Learn How To Spot The Signs
Do Any Of These Sound Familiar?  If So, You May Want To Reconsider Where It's Going

Is YOUR relationship on the brink of break-up?  Knowing the signs of a bad relationship is the beginning.

Recognizing the signs early in your relationship is the most important.   It can be a life changing factor, when you are aware of them.

Is there still time to REPAIR IT or do you need to GET OUT?

Are you worried about the sudden change in your relationship?

Wondering if it's stress or something more serious?  Now, is the time to re-evaluate your situation, and take the necessary measures.

Unfortunately, for some of you.  When you are in a bad relationship, you are either too much in love to see it, then there are others (and you know who you are) who are to scared to do something about it.

Yes, there are always those "red flags" that are apparent to all your friends and family, but why don't you see them first?

Hmmm, because love is blind!  It's time to reveal a few signs that may help you detect a problem.

Here you will find (in no particular order), the most popular signs of a bad relationship.

I apparently find myself agreeing with many of these signs.  As I look back after my divorce, I wish I had detected them earlier, and saved myself a lot of heartache and grief.   Yes, many of these signs of a bad relationship I have personally experienced.

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Signs Of A Bad Relationship
When It's Time To Get OUT or Fix It!

• Fighting & Arguments - This is one of the most obvious signs of a bad relationship.   Communication, expectations and everyday decisions, seem to fire up an argument.   Do the little things he/she does fuel your anger?  Arguments usually stem from an underlying problem.  One that may have been swept under the carpet more than a few times.


• Going The Distance - You know the old saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder",  but too much time apart can cause you to find joy in being by yourself or looking for someone else.   Without spending quality time together on a regular basis, no relationship can survive.  Tip:   Create time in your schedules to spend exclusive time together.   Make it "date night", at least twice a month, if not even more!
  

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• Relief in The Absence of Your Partner - Do you feel relief, happiness, maybe even a bit of excitement whenever your partner is away?   Do you feel like a bird that has escaped from their cage?  And, how do you feel when your partner is on their way home?   Burdened, sad, anxious?  Not a good sign, and a flag for you to change the situation or move on.


• Loss Of Affection - Every human being desires affection.  You had it in the beginning, now your partner is not as willing to give you those random hugs and kisses, nor does he/she want it from you.


• Boredom - Of course, relationships are exciting and spontaneous in the beginning.  But what happens after the first 5 years?   Are you feeling like you would rather be doing anything else, but sitting at home, spending time with your partner?


• Lier, Lier - C'mon, you know better than anyone, when your partner is telling a lie.  Most likely others know that he/she is lying about their whereabouts as well. Unfortunately, when the lying starts, then the TRUST is gone as well.  In my opinion this is #1 of all the signs of a bad relationship.  Once trust is gone, it's hard to get back.  A healthy relationship is built on trusting the one you are with.


• Social Outings Without You - Everyone needs "alone time", but if your partner starts wanting to ALWAYS go places by themselves, this is a warning sign and flag for you.   Where are they going and WHY aren't you included?


• Abusive Relationship - This is one of the signs of a bad relationship that shouldn't be ignored (and is meant for a close friend of mine).   Yes, everyone can make a mistake, but when hitting, shoving and verbal abuse comes into the picture ... this is not the foundation of a loving relationship!!!!!  Aretha Franklin had this one right!   R.E.S.P.E.C.T.    Respect for each other and your relationship!  Love is NEVER suppose to hurt!


• Communication - The secret to being an "Intimate Couple", and having a relationship that is unstoppable, is communication.   Communication is the building blocks of any great relationship.  Being able to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly in your relationship, always opens the door to improvement, and better intimacy.


• Not Having Sex - Has "not tonight dear, I have a headache", become a regular sentence?   And, what about, "I'm too tired"?  Have things in the bedroom cooled off, to the point of no return?   Does having sex feel like an obligation?  These are all signs of a bad relationship or one that needs some serious attention.  And yes, sex in a long-term relationship is definitely different than newlywed or honeymoon sex - the longer you've been in a relationship, the more effort you need to put into finding new ways to sexually arouse each other.  While a good relationship, isn't built on sex, it's one of the best ways to maintain intimacy.   
  
  *** But enjoying good sex with your partner, is healthy  for a great relationship!

This is only a small portion of the icing on the cake, when it comes to signs of a bad relationship.

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